Couples & Family Therapy

Barbara Gabriel is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). We view the central problem in a distressed relationship as the loss of secure emotional connection and the pattern of negative interactions perpetuates this loss.

 

Emotional signals that are meant to pull a partner closer become distorted with criticism, anger and indifference. Negative patterns of interaction exacerbate each partner’s natural vulnerabilities and sense of isolation. Barbara helps couples identify the negative cycle in which they engage that leaves them feeling distant, hurt or angry. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples to break free of their negative patterns and reconnect with one another allowing the relationship to become a source of nurturance, pleasure and joy. A new emotional experience of secure connection, a sense that the other person can be accessible, responsive and engaged transforms love relationships.

Partners who are able to openly reach for and connect with each other can create the effective dependency that makes for a safe bond. This kind of bond promotes growth and love in both partners. Barbara helps couples strengthen their attachment bonds. Having strong attachment bonds means couples feel secure together, know they are most important to their partner, are more flexible in problem solving and communication. The same old fight is finally resolved. The walls that kept you away from each other crumble away and the feelings that brought you together in the beginning revive and grow.

Research studies indicate that 70-75% of couples in Emotionally Focused Therapy move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions and 90% show significant improvement. Emotionally Focused Therapy is currently the best delineated and most empirically validated couple therapy of the past 25 years. (www.iceeft.com International Center of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)

Individual sessions, couple sessions and group sessions available via in-person or teleconference.